"I wish I could draw."
I hear this sighed over me daily.
"I wish I could draw. I can't even draw a stick figure."
Usually they're not even looking at what I'm drawing, just watching me practice, wishing that they could be good at it. I clench my teeth each time I hear this, because in my mind, this statement is comparable to
"I wish I could cook. I can't even boil water."
"I wish I could snowboard. I can't even stand up on skis."
"I wish I could do first aid. I can't even open a swiss army knife."
THIS IS JUST PLAIN SILLY. All of these skills, art included, can be gained with good, honest practice. I hate the implication that anyone's skills just dropped out of the sky. Like there's something bred into those who have the desired skill, like blue eyes or the ability to tan. Not so. They worked HARD for their skills, and so they deserve to have them. Those vainly breathing their wishes to the sky are going to get nothing but a self-inflicted whack to their confidence. (I'm not downplaying the fact that some people have a natural talent: Just saying that hard work wins out over talent any day).
These "I wish/ I can't even" statements are obviously just saying "I can't". All those wishes flying up into the air make an awful lot of negativity. And if wishes were fishes, these ones would be the nasty old whiskered bottomfeeders that stink to the high heavens and taste like old boots. Speaking them aloud leaves a bad effect on everyone in the room, especially the subject of envy. I mean, seriously? What am I supposed to do with your irresolute longing?
Instead, why don't we see these people we admire and stop envying them? Use their hard work as encouragement and realize that we, too, can become better than we've ever been? Encourage one another and develop ourselves into better individuals with the skills to bring joy to others?
Example: the world once thought it was physically impossible to break the four minute mile. Roger bannister shattered that school of thought in 1954. By the end of 1957, 16 more people had taken his lead and broken the record. It was not impossible! People were holding themselves back because of what they believed they couldn't do!
All I can say is If you really want it, go get it. And don't let yourself stand in the way.